WWFS

I don't have the best relationship with my parents. Not that it's a bad one, but it is strictly a parent-child relationship. When I was younger, I guess their mentality was (and by their, I really mean my dad's) to teach us kids that we are not friends; they are the parents and we are the children.

I would assume most parents start out like that, as not to blur the lines. However, as the child(ren) get older, that relationship is supposed to morph to one of not child and parent, but adult child and parent. Many of my friends talk about being best friends with their parents and that is something that is completely foreign to me. I've used to want that type of closeness with my parents and now, at almost 30, I feel like it's something that won't happen. But I'm oddly okay with that.

Currently, my father is not speaking to me due to recent decisions I've made in my life. He hasn't spoken to me in exactly one week. Actually, that's not true. He's spoken to me 5 times since last Monday. My sister thinks I should apologize to him and at first, I thought so, too. But now I feel like why should I? I will be 28 next month. I am a grown woman and I will continue to make decisions for my life without his approval or permission. If/when SD proposes, I won't call first to make sure I can say yes. I won't call and ask if it's okay to have a baby, or to move to another state, or to do anything else that has to do strictly with my life.

Yesterday, SD asked if my father was driving me crazy yet and I told him he hasn't been speaking to me. SD asked if him not speaking to me was better than him speaking to me and I said yes, it was. How sad is it when someone says that your silent treatment is better than actual conversation with you?

What would Freud say?